GV Talk: 8 Things You Must Avoid On the First Date

Posted on Jan 20 2013 - 9:00pm by Michelle Emiaha

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We all want our first dates to be perfect. But do you really how to impress a girl on a date without overdoing it?

When you hook up on a first date with a gorgeous girl, it is understandable that you want to go all out and please her, maybe by showing her that you’re manly and in command, or by behaving like a doormat.

But there may be a few things that could be overdone and you might just blow any opportunity of getting to the next date.

The Huggable Understanding Guy tells you where to draw the line between doing the right things, and overdoing them. Here are 8 tips for first dates that every man should know to have a successful first date

#1 ARE YOU IN CONTROL?
It’ss important to be in control and make those tough decisions, like calling the waiter, deciding where to go, etc. when you’re with your date.

It’s not easy when you get all groggy and drool while staring at this beautiful woman beside you.

But there may be times when your behavior borders rudeness and arrogance. Swearing, snapping your fingers to call waiters and bad behavior is just unacceptable. So if you want to hold on to the hope of getting a second date, then learn to be courteous and gentle, not just with her, but with everyone around.

#2 TRYING TOO HARD

You may have waited since you were in first grade before the both of you got together for this date. You may have marked this moment in your secret diary and stored it as one of the best moments of your life. But you know what? She doesn’t have to know that!
She’ss still contemplating and figuring is she’s having a good date. Don’t ruin the moment by droning on about how happy you are.

She knows that you’re happy, but don’t blow it all out, all through the date. Make her wonder if you’re having a great time. Don’t give in to the chase even before it begins!

#3DON’TT SHOW OFF YOUR INDEPENDENCE

You love hanging out and bonding with your guy friends, and every Friday in your calendar might be allotted for hanging out with the boys. But saying that out aloud on your first date could actually turn out bad for you.

You might think that it shows your independence and confidence, and that you also respect her space and are not going to be a clingy boyfriend, but it actually works otherwise. She might think that your life is just too rigid.

Or worse, it may seem like you’re trying to set boundary rules even before both of you get steady.It’ss almost like you’re already imposing a rule on her. What did you think, that she would like it?!

#4 ANSWERING PHONE CALLS

Now no one’s telling you not to pick up calls or that you have to leave your cell phone at home, but you should know how to use it well.

Make sure your calls are short, even if you have to answer them. Don’t cut her in mid sentence to answer the call. Wait until she’s done with her sentence, and then excuse yourself, if only for a moment.

Another way you can actually make her feel more special is by answering the call, only to tell the person that you’re with someone who’s very important to you, and whatever it is, you could talk about it the next day! You could also add a cheeky grin to stop you from appearing pompous.

Now why wouldn’t that make just about anyone beam with happiness?

To top that, you could hang up, and then say, ‘Sorry, that was Bill Gates and he’s just so annoying.’ You could just laugh off that little joke of yours, and show her that you can be humorous at the same time!

#5 BE TOO CONCERNED

Remember, you’re out with someone who’s matured enough to think and take care of herself. You can ask her occasionally ifshe’ss comfortable, or if she requires something.

But don’t keep popping the same question to her again and again. It can get really annoying. Just enjoy the conversation and relax. Don’t push your protective and concerned act too far.

And if you find yourself running out of things to talk about, stop asking her ifshe’ss having fun. Instead, be comfortable and speak about something else. Usually the four magic words – music, work, movies, and shopping, will take the conversation really far and you can also have a great time getting to know each other.

You could also use the awesome six conversation starters on a date to start great conversations. And another thing, if you both have something in common in these four words, then you can go ahead and book your next date’s dinner reservation.

#6 REVEAL TOO MUCH
It’s fun to be with this girl who’s so much fun to hang out with. And you want to prove that you’re a great guy to hang out with to her. So what do you do? You tell her about all your brave, stupid and hilarious encounters.

You start off right from the first time you ripped your pants in first grade, and go on all the way to the latest incident. Stop! First of all, she doesn’t want to know all of that, even if she seems like she loves hearing all of that. And secondly, spare some loving and exploring for later.

You don’t want her to know everything about you on the first date itself, do you? Give her a chance to learn more about you by herself. Let there by mystery in your togetherness, and let her wonder what else you have in store for her, the next time you meet up.

#7 YOUR VIEW AND HERS

This is a very touchy situation to handle.It’ss obvious that both of you have different views about different things. Arguing about anything is a big turn off for a girl.

Anything about religion, politics, or moral issues should be avoided at any cost. And even if this does crop up, don’t tell her outright that you don’t want to talk about it, instead try sweeping the topic under the carpet without a big fuss.

Just answer the question in a vague and abrupt manner, and bring up something more exciting to talk about.

Do not be dominating about any of your views, or be very boisterous about voicing your opinions.

Even if she supports something you’re firmly against, just give a small laugh, and tell her ‘Well, that’s one thing that i’m not too sure of, because I’ve always felt the other way about that’ and complete the sentence saying, ‘but I obviously respect your view, and our difference in opinions.’ Anyways tell me about the last time you’ And change the topic as subtly as you can.

#8 GETTING DISTRACTED!

Well, this is really easy to fall for, and one of the things you have to pay the most attention to. When you’re out with a lady, she expects to be treated like one.

Don’t sit across the table and dream or doze off. Worse, don’t squint your eyes so that you can focus one eye on her, while the other eye ogles that girl with those never ending legs walking past you in short skirts. Pay a lot attention to her, and listen to what she has to say.

And for crying out loud, is she’s wearing something with a deep neckline, stop staring at her breasts and trying to judge how much more cleavage is concealed! This is not the time, and definitely not the place either.

Concentrate on her face, and have a great conversation. Be attentive to her needs. If you see her glass of water half empty, have a waiter refill it. If she wonders what ‘a-la-carte’ means and if you can’t figure it out, then let the waiter help you with that. Basically don’t distract yourself with things that can be put on hold, and pay a lot of attention to her needs.

Staring at a girl’s cleavage is a big no-no too, unless, of course, you know the art of staring at a girl’s cleavage like a gentleman.

If you can pay attention to these little details, it’s more than definite that your first date would only take you further into the next, and then the next.

Every date has a potential to be a great one just as long as you remember the things you need to avoid on a first date, and remember the things you need to do. So go on, enjoy yourself. Have a perfect first date!

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