By Gerry Sanders
Are you anxious to win over the guy on a date? I’ve got your back lady.
Dating is a little game of courtship between two potential lovers. Both of you may like each other, and know quite a bit about each other. But when you’re sitting next to each other in a romantic setting, it’s judgment time.
You’d be more critical of the guy and would want to know everything about him, his likes and dislikes. And just like you, the guy too would want to know everything about you so he can judge the compatibility between the two of you.
So when you’re on a first date with a guy you really want to dazzle, keep these 16 first date tips for girls in mind, and you’ll see how easy it can be to impress this new man in your life.
#1 Make him feel like a man. If you want to impress a guy you’d like to date, help him feel like a man. Sit back and give him an opportunity to pamper you. If you need something at the table, tell him about it so he can speak to a waiter and get it for you. Of course, you can do that yourself! But by making a man believe that you need him, it makes him feel like more of a man. Give him a chance to be your protector and he’ll love you for it.
#2 The art of smelling nice. This is a first date tip that all girls definitely need to remember. And it’s something every guy will definitely remember too! Don’t douse yourself in perfume, but use it liberally over your pulse points like the neck, your cleavage, your palms and the back of your neck.
And for added measure, spray a mist of perfume into the air and walk under it so the perfume stays locked in your hair too. Every time you walk past your date or even get closer to him to whisper something, he needs to inhale the mild intoxication of your sensual perfume. By the end of the night, all he’d want to do is hold you close and sink into your intoxicating aura!
#3 Girls dress in pastels. Want to impress your new catch? Then look no further than soft pastel colors and soft fabrics in your wardrobe, to pick the right attire. Black and red are excellent picks to show off your sexuality. But to display the femininity in you that’ll make a man feel protective around you, you definitely need to dress in softer shades.
#4 Unforgettably soft hands. These are the little details that can make all the difference on a first date. When a guy holds your hand, make sure they feel really soft and supple. A guy may not realize it himself, but your soft palms will always make him want to reach out and hold your hand often. Use hand creams or moisturizers on your hands and your lingering soft touches will always leave him wanting more.
#5 Ask him a few questions too. When you’re on a first date with a guy, don’t just sit back and answer questions like you’re in an interview. Ask him a few questions now and then, or even ask him to elaborate further about something he mentions. Guys love it when a girl shows genuine interest in their life. And he’d be more than flattered to see that you’re deeply interested in hearing more about his life.
#6 Incessant complaining. Even if the guy you like has picked a dump of a restaurant for the first date, don’t roll your eyes or whine about how lousy the place is. Think about it, he picked this place to enjoy your company, so he obviously wouldn’t try to ruin it for you intentionally, would he? Girls who complain a lot are a big no-no for any guy. On the other hand, guys love a girl who is accommodating and seems easy to get along with even if she looks like a glamorous diva!
#7 Smile. laugh. Smiling and laughing wholeheartedly on a date inspires a guy. It makes him believe he’s the king of the humor world, and it also makes him feel more confident and less nervous around you. Unless his jokes are cringe worthy or tear inducing, laugh along and try to have a nice time. Perhaps, over time *and a few drinks later* he may start to seem like a really funny guy.
#8 Every guy likes it smooth. This is a no brainer, really. But it’s still something that needs to be said if you want to impress a guy on a first date. Make sure all the parts of you that are seen on the date are nice, clean and shaved up. It makes you look a lot sexier and appealing.
#9 Dress for the occasion. Looking good on a date is one of the biggest criteria for a successful date. But at the same time, don’t go wearing a short, tight skirt or a cocktail dress if both of you are planning to go hiking or bowling. Dress appropriately and most of all, focus on your comfort. If you’re comfortable, you’d feel sexy and look really sexy too.
#10 Make it easy on him. If he fumbles on the date, forgive him. He’s probably a nervous wreck because he’s trying really hard to woo you, and is feeling conscious about it. Compliment him now and then, and help him settle his nerves down. But at the same time, don’t be so easy on him that you start to behave like a humble lapdog and he treats you like a pushover. And just another word of caution here, don’t have s3x on the first date. It’s not a great start to a happily ever after.
#11 Making him splurge. Don’t make the guy splurge too much on the first date, or you may end up scaring him off date number two or leave him broke. Be yourself, but don’t flaunt your high maintenance status and order expensive champagne and caviar unless you know for sure that he can afford it.
#12 Talk, but don’t reveal all. This is important because it’s easy to get carried away in the middle of an exciting conversation. Avoid going into details unless the guy you’re with seems overly interested in it. At times, your date may ask you a question like “how are things at work?” only to keep the conversation going. So unless he asks you to elaborate about something, avoid speaking about something for more than a couple of minutes at a stretch. And don’t answer in monosyllables either!
#13 When am I seeing you again? Sometimes, you may ask him this and then bite your tongue in awkwardness. It’s alright if your excitement clouds your better judgment and you pop this question and put him in a spot. But if you have a choice, avoid asking the guy about the next date because it sounds too desperate and clingy. If the date goes well and the chemistry’s working perfectly, you know he’ll call!
#14 The goodbye kiss. This is always an awkward moment at the end of the date. And everything about how this goes depends on the girl because a good guy would be too cautious to make a bold move here.
If you’re ready to kiss him, give him a hug and as you’re leaving his arms, bring your face close to his face and just wait for the magic to happen. But if you don’t want to kiss him goodnight just yet, turn your face to the side and give him a chance to kiss your cheek. It’s the least you can do to end the date with a hope for something better.
#15 The right kind of goodbye. The way the girl says goodbye to the guy at the end of the first date can make all the difference in the way the guy remembers the happy ending. If you like the guy and had a wonderful time, turn around and look at him coyly as you walk away from him, blush just a little bit and walk on. It’ll definitely leave any guy floating on cloud nine.
#16 Wait for him to call you. And don’t obsess about him either. After the first date, as much as you enjoyed it, wait for the guy to call you. It’s an annoying thing to do, but it’s something that always works. Don’t call the guy. By calling him, you’re making it very obvious that you’re already crazy about him. And by doing that, you’re taking the suspense out of the game, which can make the guy start taking you for granted.
Of course, some guys will be flattered if you call them first and realize how serious you are about dating them, but in the case of most guys, it’s a sign for them to take the backseat in the chase because they know they’ve won you over already.