Do you believe in Love at first sight? Here is a couple who it worked perfectly for. The South African TV star Nonhle Thema shares her emotional love story of how she met her Fiance Arthur Bolton, a British aspiring musician/entrepreneur!
It makes for an interesting read….
Although a lot of controversy has surrounded their relationship, for the first time, Nonhle was ready to speak about it. She explained that she kept quiet about it because she wanted to keep it sacred and know where it was heading first.
In the May 2013 issue of popular South African Drum magazine, the beautiful couple spoke about their love story; from how they met in 2010, kept the relationship going even with the long distance, all the way to prepping for their grand wedding day.
What she thinks about her fiance, Arthur Bolton
â€œArthur is the most humble man Iâ€™ve ever met. Heâ€™s just what Iâ€™ve always wanted. He makes me believe that good men do exist. He still buys me flowers.â€
Arthur, whose mother is originally Zimbabwean, is from a big family. He has 11 brothers and 4 sisters.
â€œI love that about him. Itâ€™s amazing because the whole family is so supportive of us. Even when times were bad, they were rooting for us to stop our nonsense and get together again.â€
â€œIâ€™m the happiest Iâ€™ve been in a very long time. Finally, there are two people who are mine; they are part of me and have filled an empty space I has inside me.â€
What he thinks about his fiancee, Nonhle Thema
â€œIt was love at first sight for me. I just loved this woman from the time I laid eyes on her.
ArthurÂ insists thatÂ NonhleÂ meets his whole family. As a result, the couple will spend a few months in England and the US before the wedding.
â€œI want all of my family to meet this amazing woman whoâ€™s stolen my heart.â€
How They Met
â€œI met Arthur in Los Angeles, where I was working on my TV show â€˜Nonhle Goes to Hollywoodâ€™. He was there to listen to his rapper brother, Lupe Fiasco, performing. We became friends but at the time I was very focused on my career and didnâ€™t give much thought to having a relationship.â€
Â Although they became friends, the romance didnâ€™t start until two months beforeÂ NonhleÂ had to leave for South Africa.
Now,Â NonhleÂ isÂ sportingÂ a white gold and diamond ring on her fourth finger. TheyÂ have a posh home in the northern suburbs of Johannesburg, South Africa where they have been raising their six-month old daughter,Â Star Phoenix Ivy Zime.Â But, the relationship wasnâ€™t always this rosy.
ArthurÂ had some contractual engagements which kept him in the US so eventually, the long distance took its toll on them forcing them to take a break.
The Long Distance Relationship
â€œThatâ€™s when I met Young Nucho ( a local Lilâ€™ Wayne look-alike rapper) and Arthur also got involved with someone else. My relationship with Young Nucho didnâ€™t last long and soon Arthur and I found each other again.â€
â€œI was very sad because every time we wanted to come together there was just always some problem. And at the start of my pregnancy, I felt like he had chosen his career over me and Star. I was very upset because he was globetrotting with his brother while I had to be alone with the growing baby inside me.
The Young Nucho connection
Alone and pregnant,Â NonhleÂ reconnected withÂ Young Nucho, who was aware of whoÂ Starâ€˜s father is and wasÂ â€˜supportive in the early days of the pregnancyâ€™.
According toÂ Nonhle, people were quick to assume thatÂ Young NuchoÂ wasÂ Starâ€˜s Â father when a photo of him carryingÂ StarÂ surfaced online. But, in response to him not knowing who the father was, she said,
â€œNo, thatâ€™s some fabricated stuff. Weâ€™re friendly now and thereâ€™s absolutely nothing wrong with a friend taking a photo with my babyâ€
Regardless of his ties in the US and their short separation,Â ArthurÂ was present for his babyâ€™s birth. He said,
â€œIt was nerve-wracking but we were singing a church song during the birth, so that was very calming. I found meaning in life that day when I saw my baby come into this world.â€
After another few months apart afterÂ Starâ€˜s birth, it began to tell on their relationship again soÂ Arthurdecided to make South Africa his base. And thatâ€™s when that special day thatÂ NonhleÂ will remember for a long time came.
â€œIt was so special. He gave me a number of gifts before he surprised me with an engagement ring at our early dinner outing that day. We were at a restaurant and I just saw the waiters singing to me and then they handed me a tray with the engagement ring box on it.
Arthur got down on one knee and popped the question. Without hesitation, he got a resoundingÂ â€˜Yes!â€™Â in response and the fellow diners started to cheer them on.
The Grand Wedding
In South Africa, itâ€™s part of the tradition that the marrying coupleâ€™s families go throughÂ â€˜lobola negotiationsâ€™.Â
â€œLobola was a foreign concept to my hubby-to-be but he researched it and wanted to do everything properlyâ€
Hereâ€™s howÂ ArthurÂ felt about them.
â€œI was not part of the negotiations because thatâ€™s how things are supposed to be done. For now, our job is just to love each other and let the families handle the traditional formalities.â€
As for the wedding plans,Â NonhleÂ says
â€œBack when I was still very active on TV, Iâ€™d have tons of people there and theyâ€™d be screaming for me, so in a way I feel like I was getting married all those times. So I want something different now. Iâ€™m thinking that we might have two weddings.â€
â€œIâ€™ll marry her over and over again, any time.â€
While their plans are still under way, there are only a few things certain about the big day right now.ArthurÂ is set on ordering his favourite caramel cake from the US â€“ he says itâ€™s non-negotiable. And,NonhleÂ wants to plan the wedding herself, with help from hers and Arthurâ€™s family.
â€œWeâ€™ve decided to have the wedding once Star is able to walk because we want her to be actively involved on the day.â€
Until then, the preparations continue! Here are some photos ofÂ NonhleÂ wedding dress shopping.
There you have it! What a beautiful story!Â NonhleÂ andÂ ArthurÂ still spoke on a lot more details of their relationship. But,Â for more details on their interview, youâ€™d have to pick up the new issue of Drum Magazine.
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Culled from Bellanaija