Lola Omotayo has kept a low profile since she startedÂ datingÂ Peter Okoye of Psquare. With two kids to show, she opens up on why she loves him, the challenges and her best moments with him…and yes, being an independent woman…
I love Peter because he was never intimidated. When I met him, he was just trying to build himself and I was very proud of him. I have a lot of respect for him, his talent and I saw that he had a vision. Peter doesnâ€™t get intimidated by anything; in fact, he supports and encourages me all the time. I think heâ€™s happy that he doesnâ€™t have to do everything; he can rely on me that I will take care of our kids.
What actually attracted you to Peter?
Peter has drive. He has vision and pursues it. He doesnâ€™t let anybody distract him from that vision and that I saw in him, which a lot of people didnâ€™t see. Some people were like, â€˜what are you doing with a musician? Are you crazy?â€™ but I saw somethingÂ very differentÂ and unique about Peter.
I saw the goals he set for himself and how he accomplished those goals step by step, and I was very impressed with that. I also saw that he wasnâ€™t a selfish person.He was a generous person from the outset, even though he didnâ€™t have much then, he was always generous. I likeÂ a manÂ who is generous, not for the financial reason, but also to see how he can add value to other peopleâ€™s lives; that is very important to me. He is also a good listener; he listens to people, listens to meâ€¦those are the things that attracted me to Peter. Heâ€™s an amazing guy
How romantic is he?
Peter is very romantic as well. He does things that an average Nigerian guy will not do. There was a Valentineâ€™s Day that he came to my house with a guitar and played some love ballads for me. That was really cool and I loved it. Those are the little things that he does that really touched me.
How challenging is it to date a celebrity?
Having a relationship with a musician is one of the most challenging situations to be in. There are things you have to deal with; a lot of women,Â intruders, fans. You have to appreciate and respect the fans, but you also have some of them who are thinking of other things. I think itâ€™s one of the most challenging relationships one can have.
You wonâ€™t evenÂ spendÂ much time with your partner because heâ€™s on the road most of the time doing shows and concerts; even during holidays like Christmas, Easter and New Year, they are not around. So Iâ€™m not really enjoying that part. But I thank God that we are managing it very well.
I think that is the core of our problems in this society because we put so much pressure on the man to take care of us, pay our billsâ€¦we put so much pressure on them, and that tempts some men to start doing some shady businesses. Women put too much pressure on men in this part of the world.
Also, a lot of women are greedy and lazy, so they just want to get married and stop working. It doesn’t mean women should go all out and work for the men, but somehow, you just have to make things easy for him. I see a lot of young ladies out there; it is not as if there are no jobs for them to do, the problem is that they donâ€™t want to do certain type of jobs, they want everything to come easy.
I started the very hard way, I didnâ€™t start the easy way like people assume. I had to work myself up there because I had a vision. A lot of young ladies in Nigeria see people drivingÂ fancy cars; carrying fancy bags and assume thatÂ a manÂ is supposed to do all of that for them, so they sell themselves in order to get it. But you donâ€™t have to do that. You can always findÂ ways to make moneyÂ legally.