byÂ Paula Beaton
We all know there are some things men will never tell you. Thereâ€™s a reason why women are known as the more communicative and emotional s3x, and many men donâ€™t know where to start when it comes to expressing themselves properly using words. Whilst there are undoubtedly some men out there who are good at speaking about their emotions, there are still some things men will never tell you.
1. THEY MISS YOU
If youâ€™re lucky enough to have a boyfriend who is always texting you that he misses you â€“ youâ€™re very lucky indeed! Saying â€˜I miss youâ€™ is one of the things men will never tell you; or theyâ€™ll say it rarely. For some men, an admission that they miss you and want to see you is a sign of dependency and weakness, and if they want to keep the upper hand in the relationship, theyâ€™ll keep their distance when it comes to displaying their emotions. Luckily, you can sometimes get your man to open up by being the one to initiate the â€˜I miss youâ€™ conversation â€“ hopefully, heâ€™ll take the hint!
2. THEY DONâ€™T ALWAYS ENJOY BOYâ€™S NIGHTS OUT
If your man has been going on about heading off on a boyâ€™s night out, you might be thinking it will be a booze-filled night of chatting to other women, dancing, and generally mucking around with his friends. In fact, it could just be that he wants a bit of chill out time to catch up with his mates. I know whenever my boyfriend goes out he doesnâ€™t always have a good time â€“ sometimes he misses me and would rather be cozied up watching a film together or enjoying dinner at a nice restaurant. So donâ€™t assume that just because your man is out with his friends, heâ€™s having more fun than when heâ€™s with you, and leave him to have his boy time!
3. YOU ALWAYS LOOK BEAUTIFUL
Ok, so some men are really, really good at giving compliments. Iâ€™ve been with one, and the rest have sucked at ever complimenting me! Sometimes, the time you most need to hear that you look beautiful isnâ€™t when youâ€™ve spent three hours doing your makeup for a special event. Itâ€™s when youâ€™ve just rolled out of bed in the morning, or when youâ€™re sick and havenâ€™t bothered to brush your hair. A man who can tell you that you look beautiful at these times is a keeper ladies, so donâ€™t let him get away!
4. THEYâ€™RE AFRAID OF BEING ALONE
I used to think that it was just women who got afraid of growing old alone. With so many of my friends in their 20â€™s and early 30â€™s getting married, it was always something at the back of my mind. It was only recently, when chatting with my boyfriend, that I realised men have the same fears! It makes sense, after all, weâ€™re all human. Nobody likes the idea of being old and alone, so donâ€™t think that just because men donâ€™t always express how theyâ€™re feeling, they donâ€™t feel the same things we do!
5. YOUâ€™RE SCARY WHEN YOU HAVE PMT
Sensible men know better than to try and engage you with any kind of meaningful conversation when you have PMT. They also know never to tell you that youâ€™re irrational, scary, overemotional or any of these things, if they want to live! But you know you can be a bit scary sometimes, whether you cry more often than usual or just become irrationally moody at your boyfriend over the slightest things. Sometimes I wonder how men put up with our monthly moods, then I remember that my other half has PMT-like moods on and off throughout most of the month, and I donâ€™t feel quite so guilty!
6. THEYâ€™RE JEALOUS OF YOUR GUY-FRIENDS
Many men donâ€™t like to show weakness, and for some guys, that includes signs of jealousy. If they show theyâ€™re jealous, theyâ€™re revealing their insecurity to you. Whilst some men can be overly jealous and possessive, there are others who wonâ€™t express how they feel. You might think he doesnâ€™t care that youâ€™re at the bar with your guy-friends every Friday night, but in reality, he could just be keeping the peace or afraid to bring the subject up. The chances are, heâ€™s jealous, even if itâ€™s just a teeny-weeny bit!
7. THEY WORRY THEY HAVENâ€™T GOT IT ALL FIGURED OUT YET
Iâ€™m sure many of us spend time worrying about where we are in life â€“ we feel like we should have it all figured out by now and be on the path to happiness. Men are no different; they have the same worries as we do, and whilst they often wonâ€™t talk about it, that doesnâ€™t mean they donâ€™t feel the same! Men can be more immature than women, which means they often take longer to figure out what they want and where they want to go in life. Itâ€™s not unusual for a man in his 30s or evens his 40s to still not know where heâ€™s headed. Itâ€™s good to know that weâ€™re not the only ones!
Youâ€™ll always get men who are better at expressing their emotions than others, but just because he doesnâ€™t tell you something, doesnâ€™t mean he isnâ€™t feeling it. Take the time to get to know the men in your life and youâ€™ll be able to sense how theyâ€™re feeling without them ever having to tell you! Is your man an openly emotional type or does he hide his feelings away?
Guys, do you agree with this?