7 Relationship Red Flags To Watch Out For In The Beginning

by Gillian Degraaf

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Relationships are hard, but you should be able to pick out the relationship red flags at the beginning. Most people ignore the signs off the bat and think it will get better when chances are it won’t. If your new love is doing things that you just can’t look past, then have that talk now.

Before you read, make sure to take each situation into account. The below doesn’t always mean they are true as everyone is different. Here are some relationship red flags that deserve a chitchat or a break up.

1. HE INSULTS YOU

This one of those pretty obvious relationship red flags, but some girls really just let this slide. A lot of people think this is like the grade 3 tactic, ‘if they make fun of you, they like you.’ Not always true! There is a very big difference between teasing and insulting. If you feel like he is putting you down in any way, this is a big red flag.

2. HE DOESN’T SELF MANAGE WELL… OR AT ALL

The beginning of a relationship is usually when you want to hang out all the time. If he is ditching you for a plan he just remembered he already had, this could be a red flag. It can of course be an honest mistake if it happens once or twice, but it’s when it starts happening all the time that this is no good.

3. YOU DON’T LIKE HIS FRIENDS

This is a major red flag to me. You are known for whom you hang around with a lot of the time, with of course some exceptions (we all have those crazy friends!). But if you don’t like his core group that he hangs out with constantly, chances are it won’t last. Make sure you can easily transition into his life as well as he can yours.

4. HE JUST GOT OUT OF A LONG TERM SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP

This can be a huge sign as a lot of the time that person doesn’t want to commit into another serious relationship. Make sure you have that talk if this is the case as you want to know his intentions before you get too far into the love. If he is still fragile due to his last relationship, chances are he needs to move on from that before falling deeper for you.

5. ALL OF YOUR DATES CONSIST OF BOOZE AND BOOTY

If your ‘dates’ consist of a lot of drinking and then waking up in each other’s bed ‘date’ after ‘date,’ this is a sign he isn’t wanting a girlfriend. Is he calling you late at night to come over? That usually means you’re his booty call. Make sure you know the difference between actually dating someone and being that easy girl that’s just ‘there.

6. YOU DON’T HEAR FROM HIM UNLESS YOU CALL HIM

This is a MAJOR red flag, ladies. If this is happening to you right now, run for the hills. He needs to put in the same effort you are or it is never going to work. At some point you are going to get tired of not feeling special and having to put forth all of the work. Make sure the relationship is even in every way, such as phone calls, texts and date nights.

7. IF YOUR FRIENDS SAY YOU’VE CHANGED

If you start seeing this guy, and you find yourself running from everyone you know…red flag. Listen to your friends if they say you have changed for the worst or have disappeared. We have to admit that guys can make us crazy and not always in a good way. If you have found yourself getting down or changing the things you like for him, it’s not a good sign.

These are just a few signs that should be alarming when just starting to date a guy. My number one tip is to listen to your heart and gut. As lame as that sounds, it’s true. If you feel like something is wrong, chances are there is something wrong. Is there something that makes you run for the hills?

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