Peter Okoyeâ€™s wife, Lola Omotayo-Okoye has revealed how she was molested by a priest and physically abused by an ex. She said this while speaking at the recently held Kinabuti Dare2Dream project. Her experience left everyone spellbound.
Read in her words below…..
â€œYou shouldnâ€™t let your past determine what your destiny will be, we all have our past whether good or bad or makes us unhappy, we all had a life that we lived that we are not happy about,Â you shouldnâ€™t let it bother you from succeeding.
When I was a young girl in my early teens in high school, i was molested by a catholic priest, i blamed myself, i didnâ€™t tell anyone because i was ashamed, couldnâ€™t tell anyone cosÂ everyone would blame me, so i carried on the guilt and bitterness with me for years. I was filled with hate and i became a angry person, i was rebellious, i didnâ€™t want to listen to anybodyâ€¦and because i wanted to expel from school to avoid seeing this person, i would do so many terrible things, everything around me was just so negative, i felt i wasnâ€™t good enoughâ€¦.
Anyway i moved on to the university, met the love of my life and iâ€™m like, okay this guy is cool, he loves meâ€¦and then he started to abuse meâ€¦.i was beaten black and blue all the time, in front of friends, in public and at a point i felt, you know whatÂ I am not worthy enough, there is nothing about me that is nice, nobody loves me but i hid this from my familyâ€¦.i felt like a loser..so it was hard for me to focus..so one day i woke up and said i am going to change my story and i dumped that person, focus on my education and decided to be serious and be somethingâ€¦.i decided to get a job and go to school full time in Americaâ€¦
I worked hardâ€¦my parents were sending me money cos I didnâ€™t tell them i was working but i was working because i wanted to be independentâ€¦I didnâ€™t want to depend on any man or on my parents even though they would have done anything for meâ€¦so i did all sorts of job, i was a make up artiste, i worked in a cafe, school library,Â i did so many things and i didnâ€™t realise that these jobs were building me up as a person, building my resume, my confidenceâ€¦.people began to like me because i was adding value to their livesâ€¦.at work i was excellent and so was i in school and that built me as a strong womanâ€¦and at some point, i sought counseling to get over my molestation issues where i was made to see reasons why i wasnâ€™t at fault cos i was a child thenâ€¦today I am accomplished.
You can be whatever woman you want to be but you have to believe in yourself, if they reject you today, it doesnâ€™t mean you should let your dreams die, you have something unique about you.
Look at my husband, when i met him peeps were like what are you doing with him, he has nothing but i stood my ground and choose to stick with him cos he had a dream. He and his twin brother did not let their dream die, they worked hard..look at them today! I stuck by him cos he had focus and drive and today i am happy, i have a good life, we are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can make you a loser.â€
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