Sonia Ogbonna, wife of popular actor and model Ik Ogbonna has delved into the burning issue of marital violence. She strongly disagreed with the opinion that women that should stay in marriages regardless of the circumstances they are enduring.
Read her thoughts below:
It makes me sick to know that there are more women than men out there advising ladies, fellow sisters, mothers and daughters, to â€œtry and make their marriage workâ€ and â€œstayâ€ by their husbandâ€™s side due domestic violence or any form of disrespect or mistreatment. No marriage is perfect (I know you were about to say that bish) but there are things that are most definitely NOT considered as â€œusualâ€ marriage crisis. Your mom didnâ€™t carry u for 9 months with so much love and care for you to become some elseâ€™s punching bag. â€œStay for the sake of your childrenâ€ â€“ if I hear that again!! All of you â€œwise advisersâ€, please tell me, how can a child EVER grow into a normal, mentally and emotionally stable adult after being traumatized with such a terrible experience such as witnessing a domestic violence at his home?? For that sake I will tell you LEAVE BECAUSE OF YOUR CHILDREN if nothing else. Stop making women feel like they were destined to suffer!!! No!! You were meant to be loved and cherished, no matter where you come from, not humiliated, disrespected and unappreciated! F* SOCIETY!!!! Your life MATTERS !!! NO ONE CAN MISTREAT YOU UNLESS YOU STAY AND ALLOW THEM!!!! #soniaogbonna #IAmMySistersKeeper
Stop looking for a man to save you. The only way you can tap into a healthy relationship is to be able to do for yourself all the things you would want/expect your partner to do for you. Imagine if you use all that effort and energy you put into looking for a man that will take care of you into self investment-you would be freaking unstoppable. Thatâ€™s the only guarantee you will be with a man you truly want not the one you only need and thatâ€™s the only way to protect yourself from being taken for granted just because mofo thinks you canâ€™t do without him. But againâ€¦ Man is a natural provider, yes, just donâ€™t forget: â€œA real woman can do it all by herself, but a real man wonâ€™t let herâ€ â¤My African ladies, itâ€™s your time to shineâ¤#SoniaOgbonna